When tragedy strikes, the virtues can help

I WAS visiting Rarotonga this week when the news spread that two people had been murdered. While on a work release programme from prison, Chris Rimamotu shot his former partner and her boyfriend. That night, he had a gun and a truck and was still at large. Most people went into lockdown mode, but a woman who lived in the village where the shootings occurred was weeping and wandering in a parking area, afraid to go home. The next morning, cornered in a house by police, the killer committed suicide. No-one, including the police, remember any act of violence like this happening before here in paradise. What happens to a community, especially a small community, when tragedy strikes? Make no mistake. Everyone is affected by a devastating event such as this; everyone. How do we as a community deal with the aftermath, the post-traumatic stress of fear, anxiety, grief, and feelings of vulnerability? Communities in North America have applied the healing tools of The Virtues Project, days or sometimes months after tragedy hits. In Pocatello, Idaho in 2006, beautiful 16-year-old Cassie Jo Stoddart, known as one of the kindest and best loved girls in her class, was murdered by two classmates, who planned to kill many of their classmates. The two boys, who were friends of Cassie’s, confessed they did it to be “famous”. They are now serving a life sentence without parole. This profoundly shocked and shattered this small, very religious community. Yet, nothing except some immediate individual counseling had been done. We set up circles for the teens, families, and teachers to finally allow the healing tears and suppressed anger blocked until then, and helped to re-bond the painful rift between students loyal to the boys and others who were enraged by what occurred. There were sincere virtues acknowledgments and hugs bridging the gap. In Walkerton, Ontario, a toxic e coli outbreak in the community water system from farm run-off, killed seven people, and sickened thousands. The horrific discovery was made that it was the result of a cover-up by two untrained men who monitored the water system. The town, heavily dependent on tourism, withered. Family businesses were lost. Children had to be bussed to schools in other communities. It was like a ghost town. Finally, the interfaith church council decided to bring in the The Virtues Project. One mother who ignored the early warnings, bathed her children and brushed their teeth with the tainted water. She said guilt had kept her sleepless for months. Her first good sleep occurred after the healing circle. She

I WAS visiting Rarotonga this week when the news spread that two people had been murdered. While on a work release programme from prison, Chris Rimamotu shot his former partner and her boyfriend. That night, he had a gun and a truck and was still at large. Most people went into lockdown mode, but a woman who lived in the village where the shootings occurred was weeping and wandering in a parking area, afraid to go home. The next morning, cornered in a house by police, the killer committed suicide. No-one, including the police, remember any act of violence like this happening before here in paradise. What happens to a community, especially a small community, when tragedy strikes? Make no mistake. Everyone is affected by a devastating event such as this; everyone. How do we as a community deal with the aftermath, the post-traumatic stress of fear, anxiety, grief, and feelings of vulnerability? Communities in North America have applied the healing tools of The Virtues Project, days or sometimes months after tragedy hits. In Pocatello, Idaho in 2006, beautiful 16-year-old Cassie Jo Stoddart, known as one of the kindest and best loved girls in her class, was murdered by two classmates, who planned to kill many of their classmates. The two boys, who were friends of Cassie’s, confessed they did it to be “famous”. They are now serving a life sentence without parole. This profoundly shocked and shattered this small, very religious community. Yet, nothing except some immediate individual counseling had been done. We set up circles for the teens, families, and teachers to finally allow the healing tears and suppressed anger blocked until then, and helped to re-bond the painful rift between students loyal to the boys and others who were enraged by what occurred. There were sincere virtues acknowledgments and hugs bridging the gap. In Walkerton, Ontario, a toxic e coli outbreak in the community water system from farm run-off, killed seven people, and sickened thousands. The horrific discovery was made that it was the result of a cover-up by two untrained men who monitored the water system. The town, heavily dependent on tourism, withered. Family businesses were lost. Children had to be bussed to schools in other communities. It was like a ghost town. Finally, the interfaith church council decided to bring in the The Virtues Project. One mother who ignored the early warnings, bathed her children and brushed their teeth with the tainted water. She said guilt had kept her sleepless for months. Her first good sleep occurred after the healing circle. She